Bad Girl Radio

Another anonymous post here! I’d rather not attach my name to this, but I did want to post it. Here goes!

On last week’s Bad Girl Radio, we talked about getting drunk, going out, and partying. One thing we didn’t talk about that I’d have liked to hear some thoughts on? Harder drugs.

Back in the day, I did some serious partying. I used to go to raves pretty regularly, and I had the opportunity to try many interesting ingestibles. I went for some: marijuana was a common presence in my life; I was never really a stoner but I probably smoked up a couple of times a month when I was younger. I also tried ecstasy, poppers, various uppers, pharmaceuticals (vicodin, valium, xanax, adderal). There was a point in my life where if you gave me a pill and promised me it would be fun, there was a reasonably good chance I would take it. While I never found myself in a bad place, I attribute that to luck.

Do not act like I did! Know what you are doing, what to expect, and have a plan if things go wrong. If you are going to experiment with drugs, you need to know yourself. If you read through my list, you’ll see there are no hallucinogens on it. I have had many a chance to try shrooms or acid, but up until fairly recently I didn’t believe my head was on straight enough to attempt a trip. I’m now considering trying a small dose of shrooms with some friends who I trust in a safe space, but unless some pretty stringent conditions are met (a trip sitter, a plan in case something goes wrong, a safe, comfortable and familliar place to trip), I won’t be participating. I’d like to, but I also am aware of my need to take care of myself.

If you want more information about drugs, experiences, things to consider before trying something, etc. I highly suggest Erowid. Their experience vault was of immense help to me before I tried ecstasy for the first time. But really, the most important thing is to be careful and to make educated, informed decisions. And if you’re not sure about it, you probably shouldn’t do it.

Have fun, but stay safe!

I’m not the biggest party girl in the world, not even close. But even this good girl likes to get mad drunk from time to time.

My tips on a safe night out:

1. Eat a pretty decent meal before you start drinking.  
2. Make sure you have good hair. Good hair always means a good time. Confidence is key!
3. Go with at least 2 other people. You don’t want to be left alone.
4. Know what is in that punch…if you’re at a party hosted by me this might include 160 proof vodka, so watch out.
5. Drink up! Dance! Have fun!
6. Drink more! Shots! Vodka! Beer pong! Enjoy yourself!
7. Stop drinking when your body tells you. For me, it’s the point where feel like I might puke and I get really sleepy.
8. Get home safely. Call a cab, get on a bus, whatever it is, leave.
9. Drink a cup of water and go to bed. Sleep is deep.
10. Wake up early. (I don’t know why this happens to me, but I always wake up early the next morning.)

Enjoy the show tonight! Listen on whrwfm.org at 9:30pm.

Kelsey

Hello Bad Girl fans!

I wanted to comment on last weeks show.  I’m not actually going to tell you which of us I am, as some of the stuff I’m going to share is a little personal.

So last week we talked about being the rebound girl and rebounding in general.  On this subject, I have the general opinion of that you should do what makes you happy.  If sex with a random person, a friend or whatever is what makes you happy in the time and you are not leading anyone on there is no reason you shouldn’t do that.  Don’t let others judge your actions and what makes you happy.

It’s kind of funny that it happened so soon after we talked about this topic, but this past weekend I rebounded hard.  Like really hard.  But it happened with someone who was rebounding as well.  I went out with some friends and ended up having a great time.

While we were out, I ended up kissing this guy in the bar.  Yes I started it.  It’s not always the man.  After we left the bar, I ended up going home with him.  

This friend is someone I’d consider way out of my league.  Having sex with him wasn’t even on the possibilities list.  What ended up being the funny thing about it was that he told me that I was someone he’d wanted in the past.  So it’s an interesting dynamic of not knowing what other people think of me.

Afterwards I was in such shock about what had happened.  And just thought about it for a while.  The next day I was still rather confused.  But then I thought about it this way.  Did I have fun? Yes.  Did he have fun? Yes. do either of us have any other expectations? No. So, there is nothing wrong with what happened.  And there is nothing wrong with me for doing it, because I went into it knowing that.

This is something I have always thought.  While in a relationship sex is fun, it also has a much more meaning.  So when you’re not in a monogamous relationship, there’s no reason you can’t take the meaning out and just have the fun.  So as long as you’re into it and the other person’s into it, go have some fun!]

~Bad Girl Panelist

Hi there, face here

Last week we did a show on women in the workplace. I find the topic interesting because I used to be on another talk show as a panelist and we spoke about female power and being equal. One panelist said that women should be equal and they should work and have careers and all that jazz. On her rant she was basically saying how old school and chauvinistic it was for women to be at home as a housewife was.

I think women should have the ability to become equals in the workforce. There was a recent episode of Glee (this past Tuesday) about the difference between how men and women were treated. One character said women make .60 cents for every dollar a man makes. Yes that is unfair, and yes it should be changed. I also believe that women should be treated fairly. If she was hired to do a job, let her do it….don’t think women need special help or whatever. It pisses me off that some people still believe that women belong in the kitchen making sandwiches. Yeah some of my friends joke about that, it’s all good. But to really think that should be true in today’s standards? It’s bullshit.

On the other hand some women choose to make their career being a housewife and I have no problem with that. My mom was one till me and my sister were old enough to take care of ourselves before she went to work. Some of my friend’s moms are housewives. It’s a tough and busy job. One that I think some people (cough, cough that one panelist who was a bitch cough, cough) don’t realize it.

The end all be all of my opinion is that women deserve to be equal. There were 3 feminist movements to gain and work towards gender equality. We may not have fully achieved it but one day it will happen and it is deserved. Sorry if this ranting was not fully organized. But these are my opinions on that episode of Bad Girl Radio.

xx Stacey

- sidenote: I think I got the show dates wrong, this was the episode 2 weeks ago

Titile is from “Is it a date or is it just coffee?”, a fantastic book about lesbian relationships, but it applies across the board.  If you are on the rebound, do you bounce, or do you break?

I’ve done both.  In my most current relationship, I was in between two guys (which made me feel constantly on the rebound) and finally settled on one.  Best move ever.  But I have also taken the time to just happily be alone. 

Rebounding is hard because often you don’t give yourself the chance to heal before moving your ass onto someone else.  This can lead to a POOR set of decision making and ruin the next relationship/hookup/one night/friendship that you come across in a big way.

Sometimes you gotta break rebound girl.  Sometimes there is too much forward force for you not to.

Listen tonight at whrwfm.org! 9:30pm!

And as always,

Kate 

Tonight on WHRW, the Bad Girl Panel will be talking about flirting, seducing, talking, and trapping men. In a good way, of course. Because we all have a few tricks up our sleeves.

As the resident good girl on the bad girl panel, my tricks aren’t too tricky. Everyone loves talking about themselves. There really aren’t that many exceptions to this rule. So I ask guys to tell me a story. They get a chance to tell me anything. Something they made up, something that happened to them, it doesn’t matter. They get to talk guilt free because I’m the one asking for the story.They have found a girl who is interested in hearing their stories. What’s not to love about this girl?

It’s good for me too. I get to learn a lot about the person talking. They may talk about family, a drunken adventure, a fairy tale. Whatever. It tells me a lot.

So there you have it. My tip of the week is to ask for a story.

-Kelsey

Listen Live: whrwfm.org Wednesdays 9:30-10pm.

On Wednesday’s episode of Bad Girl Radio, we tried to discuss women in the workplace. We were somewhat distracted by other things. I though I’d take a chance to tell you all more about what I do for a living.

Third shift was never what I wanted, neither was working for a major corporation with some ethical issues. But when I moved back up here, I needed a job and the big box store was the only place to get back to me. I put in at least 20 applications and heard only from them. So, I resigned myself to my fate and started work.

Paying the rent? Awesome. Being able to buy food? Awesome. But when I am at work,  I often end up loathing it. My coworkers are mostly decent people with a few jackasses thrown in. My managers are managers; if you’ve ever worked under middle management, you know what I mean. No one person or task is especially depressing or demeaning, but the scenario as a whole is absolute balls. I try not to bitch too much, but I often end up whinging and whining to anyone who will listen. And advice of “so get a new job, Erin” goes over like a lead balloon. I am actively seeking another job. I file applications, I go into places and talk to people, I am engaging and smiley and I have a decent sense of how to sell people on hiring me. But when there’s not enough  money to hire somone, that doesn’t really matter.

My job isn’t really made harder by being a woman. It’s a job anyone can do, regardless of their sex. The difficulties come from attitudes on the part of my coworkers. I’m there to do my work and get paid. If pulling a 2500 lb. pallet of juice is part of my work for the night, so be it. I don’t need to run and ask a guy for help. And helping someone to move something like that without asking first is exceptionally dangerous. On two occasions, I was nearly injured by “helpful” male coworkers who were pushing without letting me know. Both times, I slowed down and the freight I was pulling did not. On one occasion, I simply dropped it and covered my head in case it fell. On another, I was turning and ended up sandwiched between the front of the cooler and a pallet of produce. Both were really frightening experiences. My female coworkers have had similar problems. People now know that if they want to push a pallet and help me out, they had damn well better let me know first. My temper is well known, and I will not hesitate to tear into someone as soon as we’re in the back room.

And that is the end of my job rant. I hope you all tune in next week. Keep reading the blog, and leave us feedback!

- Erin

Tune in tonight to WHRW to hear the Bad Girl panel talk about how they deal with jobs, and the drama that inevitably enters the workplace when we are around.

In my experience, the best thing for girl in the workplace to do is be friends with everybody. It’s the only way you’re going to have any amount of fun working a boring job. When I worked at Office Max, there was drama everywhere. Co-workers hated each other, workers hated their bosses, and bosses didn’t like a few of their employees. I got along with everyone. If I hadn’t, I would have gone insane. 

The friends you make in the workplace (especially the crap retail job) are there to listen to you rant when you’ve been insulted by a particularly nasty customer. They are there to laugh with you when a ridiculously dressed customer walks in. And they are there to tip you off that your boss is coming when you’re casually perusing a magazine.

So that’s my advice to you, reading this blog. Make friends. That’s the only way you won’t lose you mind at work.

Kelsey